“When you arrive at a certain level it’s very easy to say yes: that is the moment to learn to say no.” – Jose Carreras

Sometimes you have to say No in marriage, when it would be all to easy to say Yes, going along to get along.

One obvious area is sex; women often feel pressured to say yes when they really don’t want to be physically intimate (and some unscrupulous husbands use Scripture to get what they want in the moment).

Yes is easy to say, but it’s bad for the marriage in the long run. No means standing up for self-respect, and without self respect…respect for your mate is impossible.

There are a lot of other areas in which a Yes should really be a No…from which TV channel is on, to time spent with friends, to vacation destinations.

Relational intimacy requires respect, and it’s hard to build and extend respect when one ends up as a daily doormat.

 

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