“Do you feel cold, and lost in desperation / you build up hope, but failure’s all you know / remember all your sadness and frustration / and let it go….let it go.” – From Linkin Park’s “Iridescent”

There are times in every marriage when we feel more alone, more desolate together than we could possibly feel on our own.

Nothing goes right, and both we and our mates always seem to be talking at cross purposes.

It’s tempting, then, to hold onto the hurt, hold onto the feeling of pain and bitterness, because the alternative seems to be an emotional abyss…once entered, we may never feel again.

But there’s another alternative, and that is to consciously let go. Visualize putting the angry words in a box, sealing it, and casting it away. Watch it dwindle into the distance; let it go.

Don;t artificially try to feel good. You’ll probably feel a bit hollow. Go with that, and live there…and it will start to fade.

Let the night go, and the morning will come.