“Just open yourself and give up everything. Whatever happens, study closely and see what you find out.” – Shinryu Suzuki
Consider a book. We can pick it up, look at the front cover, read the back cover, and think we know what it’s about without opening it.
Or we can read it from the first word to the last, taking in the story without preconceptions, learning a bit on every page.
Marriage is like that.